My reading of it is that they both were being jerks. In particular, the whole "I supported my argument with references, but it's YOUR job to locate those arguments" never sits well with me.<p>Reminds me a bit of this time I had <i>FINALLY</i> gotten someone to volunteer to help out with maintenance, and his first action was met with someone being a real jerk. I called them out on it and they started attacking me. I never replied, but I did get an "appology" from them: [paraphrased] "I'm sooo sorry... That I sent that from my work address. Please don't get me fired, I need this job."