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The quiet rebellion of a little life

78 点作者 durmonski4 个月前

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eluketronic4 个月前
I’ve wrestled with this idea since reading My Side of The Mountain when I was quite young. Our society and culture constantly reinforces the perceived need to make enough money to retire one day, assuming that there is a necessary amount of money one needs to continue living and that one should stop working at some point. The fear of exorbitant medical costs in our privatized healthcare system scare me into thinking I need a fortune to feel safe and be able to live a long health life. My rampant consumption and desire to live a “full” life, like those that I see posted on social media, also stoke this financial insecurity mindset—“I must have more so that I can do more so that people will know that I am fulfilled and then I will feel happy and fulfilled.”
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spokaneplumb4 个月前
Is there some kind of reader-mode filtering site one can put a URL in to get a version that undoes this extra effort to remove capital letters? From what I’ve gotten of this piece I think it’s up my alley, but reading it is unpleasant.<p>[edit] incidentally, if this fad doesn’t burn out soon we’re going to need a setting to fix it under the heading of accessibility. I expect there are several categories of people for whom this is even more annoying than for most of us, and who can’t just get over it or re-train their brain to do better without the very-useful cues provided by capital letters, notably dyslexics.
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fireynis4 个月前
I always think these kinds of mentalities are based on people who have never been in dire straits or financially insecure. Living a simple life is almost impossible, pursuing wealth is probably the only way to be secure in a simple life. Even if you FIRE, you need to pretty aggressively pursue wealth at the beginning to make it work.
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sgt1014 个月前
Ok, no capital letters as a writing affectation is immediately upsetting... but I&#x27;ll let my anxiety about that subside and focus on the content.<p>I get it, I really do. I find it a daily struggle. Last week I told my boss I couldn&#x27;t travel this week. He was fine about it, there wasn&#x27;t even a discussion. But I&#x27;ve worried about it ever since. Not because I want a raise or a promotion, but because I need this job and I worry that I won&#x27;t get another good one if I lose it. I need it to cover my families needs, I need it so that I can live a good life post work. I need to think about post work because we all know that when your hair goes white and you struggle with the accessibility of the office you&#x27;re not going to get another one.<p>So, there is no compact that will create the feeling of safety and fulfillment that this article wishes for. Just money.
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carabiner4 个月前
Author lives in NYC (a little city?) and seems to be rediscovering early &#x27;00s hipsterdom (&quot;authenticity&quot;), JOMO, and realizing her surrogate activities are just that. Her instagram is a sea of beige and rouge that represents what I hate about IG: an unattainably fashionable and curated portrayal. Oddly, this is what I loved about tiktok. On tiktok I watched a 60 year old man talk about his early mornings working at costco. I watched a middle aged woman prepare breakfast at a rural gas station. I can&#x27;t imagine these types of real, ordinary, and representative lives on IG versus OP&#x27;s yuppie elite ideal. For god&#x27;s sake, does she ever sit down and eat a big mac? She is dripping in pretense not authenticity, especially with the tumblr-era lack of upper case.
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bookofjoe4 个月前
&#x27;A Little Life&#x27;<p><a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.amazon.com&#x2F;Little-Life-Hanya-Yanagihara&#x2F;dp&#x2F;0804172706&#x2F;ref=sr_1_1?crid=36YYAUXASQRJO&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.6R2SZjK73gUqi08u9pd0mo3RoNjdxigIhZDiYQkMmA1mSufytQzf8YztrHqpdEc1Ov_N-f0aewPhZJMWX4iJAGAQqxVZZeEZEmhu0_GNYrado_OMcPqsRmFZExVCPe0CVr1ico6skprLL0plgwCc4HnB3KrNb6N4DZr1FHhr705Y88jspSyawIhrsjuL2y80.ysJOodqt5Znxlw4TBmrVrhXpYfMTOMJw_7yAtOTN04s&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=A+little+life&amp;qid=1737404032&amp;s=books&amp;sprefix=a+little+life%2Cstripbooks%2C90&amp;sr=1-1" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.amazon.com&#x2F;Little-Life-Hanya-Yanagihara&#x2F;dp&#x2F;08041...</a>
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mberning4 个月前
I find these types of ideas to be more of a coping mechanism than any sort of deep insight on the human condition. Once everything is stripped away and you are spending your days making artisanal gooseberry preserves you may find that life is still not possessed of anything meaningful.
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mattbee4 个月前
Mmmm the OP describes a <i>very expensive</i> mid-life retirement: an unspecified number of children, cats, a dog, a garden, living near enough a park that you might want to walk through, shopping at a farmer&#x27;s market, books and art in your home, wine, and all in a &quot;culturally rich&quot; location!<p>I think most humans are pleasure seeking and would choose the above, if it were a choice! But the pinnacle for most people I know would be to enjoy one or two of the above, on the margins of a hard-working life.
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jcmontx4 个月前
I&#x27;m the CTO of a small startup. Recently I bought a small farm and moved there. I will continue working remotely while also enjoying being closer to nature, eating healthier, being able to have more animals and eventually start having children with my partner. I think this is the right balance for me, but time will tell.<p>In the meantime I&#x27;ll enjoy the ride!
mattgreenrocks4 个月前
Only part way through this, but I feel it in my bones. Currently going through a bout of reflux that feels like it may be my body saying, &quot;make changes, this is too much stress.&quot;<p>Learning to climb down the ladder after a lifetime of striving up it is a really hard mindset shift.
hprotagonist4 个月前
<a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;en.wikipedia.org&#x2F;wiki&#x2F;Th%C3%A9r%C3%A8se_of_Lisieux" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;en.wikipedia.org&#x2F;wiki&#x2F;Th%C3%A9r%C3%A8se_of_Lisieux</a> also bears reading. Her &quot;Little Way&quot; is well worth chewing on.
pdimitar4 个月前
Meh. To have a little life you have to compete for a good job so you have a good pay.<p>The author frames it as if you can just semi-retire and still have $200K a year which is observably and factually absolutely not true. Like the tired Hollywood trope of &quot;I am done working hard, let&#x27;s just go live at this beach-front property and work whenever we like and oh, by the way, money is not a problem ever and how the frak did we buy this beach-front property again?&quot;. Like the old Angelina Jolie movie: &quot;Life or Something Like It&quot; (2002).<p>Glad that the author has such a privileged life but most of us have arrived at this &quot;wisdom&quot; by 25 year old at the most and the depressing conclusion is that you have to keep grinding just to have this &quot;little life&quot;. Because if you stop or even slow down, it&#x27;s mostly homeless life that&#x27;s awaiting you, not a little one.
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readthenotes14 个月前
&quot;there’s a pervasive myth that has seeped into every corner of our current reality claiming that in order to have a meaningful life, we’re told that worth is measured in titles, achievements, and the scope of our influence. &quot;<p>The formerly most pervasive myth in my culture required that in order to live a good life we should strive to treat others well.<p>Not many did it but it seems a good aspiration, to base my self-esteem on how I treat others rather than on how they view me.
bdangubic4 个月前
<i>the irony in all of this, is that if social media were completely eradicated from the world and everyone had a chance to look inward in order to pursue being the very best version of themselves possible, both emotionally and logistically in their career pursuits, imagine the repercussions of this and how it would positively impact our society… but alas, i’m dreaming of a world where that could never exist again.</i><p>could not have said it better myself… I quit all social media and I cannot even put in words how much my life has improved since then. not only in personal aspect of not being subjected of nonsense of social media but also my social life has improved immensely. my friends of course are all on social media and any discussion that relates to it that spills into our group chats I am like “no clue and don’t give two shits about it” - glorious existence!
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flobosg4 个月前
Along the same topic: <i>Obituary for a quiet life (2023)</i> – <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=40028643">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=40028643</a>
Devthrowaway804 个月前
The rest of this persons feed is jam-packed with ludicrously pretentious photos of people posing in expensive clothing in ways clearly carefully chosen to appear spontaneous, uploaded to the internet for attention. The irony.
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pluc4 个月前
Capitalization is the difference between &quot;I had to help my uncle Jack off a horse&quot; and &quot;i had to help my uncle jack off a horse&quot;.<p>Use it. Shit is unreadable.
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dmje4 个月前
Well, I thought this was pretty terrific, and I&#x27;m a little sad to see some of the comments.<p>I don&#x27;t think it&#x27;s a &quot;very expensive mid-life retirement&quot;, to echo and paraphrase much of the criticism here. Yes, it could be, but it also doesn&#x27;t need to be. Instead, it&#x27;s about a mindset which says - I&#x27;m ok with going this far but don&#x27;t feel the need to go a huge lot further.<p>We spent the weekend with friends. She is high up working for some US corp, doing maybe £250k a year. He&#x27;s in something to do with governance that I don&#x27;t fully understand, on maybe £150k+. They live in a stunning house, they have insanely busy jet-setting type lives, they have two small kids, two expensive cars, endless holidays abroad, several flats that they rent out, all the trimmings.<p>We had fun seeing them, and dipping into their life - but on the whole they seem to spend their lives being stressed, busy and not very contented.<p>My wife and I spent the journey home thanking our stars for our much simpler, much less glamorous, much (financially) poorer lives. We live by the sea, we have raised our (now late teen &#x2F; early twenties) kids by choosing to be present, and this has come at the &quot;expense&quot; of our careers. We&#x27;ve run a small business working with non-profits for 15 years where we deliberately (in order to keep a sense of life balance) choose not to grow. My wife started a floristry business because she wanted something beautiful that was hers, but she has no ambitions to make it into something enormous and unwieldy.<p>We&#x27;re in our late 40&#x27;s &#x2F; 50&#x27;s - so I guess we partially fit the criticism, although we&#x27;re far from retirement (lolz, not nearly enough cash to do that!), but on the other hand - we&#x27;ve <i>always</i> chosen to live like this. We had brief flirtations with big jobs in our mid-20&#x27;s, and we had some hunger to climb a little bit up the salary pole early on, but we&#x27;ve both always been in and around non-profits and we&#x27;ve never had ambitions to be hugely wealthy or hugely successful, or hugely anything really. We just like ticking along, doing what we do, seeing some friends, writing a few songs and looking at bits of art along the way.<p>I do fully accept that there is a whole level of shitness in environments in which you have to hold down 3 jobs in order to make ends meet, and I also feel that the current environment is pretty scary for kids just entering the job market or at the beginning of their working lives. I&#x27;m under no illusions: I&#x27;ve been pretty lucky in my personal and working life. But I&#x27;ve also made this journey making quite a lot of conscious decisions that I think can be chosen (if you want to choose them!) along the way, not just when you&#x27;re older or luckier or more comfortable.<p>You can sometimes choose (for example) to buy second hand, or to try not to take on debt, or to go for jobs that give you a better balance of time vs money. You can choose to do things cheaper. You can choose to be happier with less. You can choose experiences over objects.<p>Having no money is awful. But having a massive ton of it with all the complexity it brings - that can be awful, too.
redeux4 个月前
For those that don&#x27;t know, the lack of capitalization is a Gen Z affect. To the people who write like this, using capitalization is a type of formality that is reserved for serious topics and is almost like most of us would consider all caps, but more nuanced. Writing is inherently a form of self-expression, and so is ripe for artistic expression. The topic and the lack of capitalization actually make a lot of sense together given the author&#x27;s cultural context.
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