All My Exes Live in Texts

If your personal history includes memories of 36 events that make your "stomach churn," maybe you should investigate the cause for the events. You might trace all of them back to one origin. That's the root problem. So before you lament the impossibility of resolving your personal issues, try to fix them yourself. Don't excuse your behavior based on the presence of a controllably negative influence like Facebook. It doesn't make you do anything. Your decision of how to use it is entirely of your own volition. If you do not like how you handle that power, figure out why. Do not throw your arms up in the air and blame Facebook. Blame your own decisions and then address the cause. You're only avoiding the problem.

I&#x27;m 22. I have 6 ex girlfriends, and a lot more girls that were not a proper relationship, but for the sake of argument here, we&#x27;ll call them exes.<p>I deal with this problem simply. I delete them and remove them from my life. There have been no exceptions.<p>I&#x27;ve run into one or two of them around town, said hello, and went my own way.<p>It can be done, oddly enough. But then, I don&#x27;t ascribe any meaning to deleting someone from Facebook. I have 100 people in my friends list, and I&#x27;d invite every one of them to a party.

Damn, was hoping this was an article about how to encode Windows executables into text.

There&#x27;s a reason for the Reddit truism:<p>&quot;Hire a lawyer, hit the gym, delete from Facebook.&quot;<p>Far be it from me to say how someone else should deal with their exes, but if their presence on social media makes you uncomfortable, there&#x27;s a quick and dirty solution just a click of a button away.

The comments on the site are a little brutal! I enjoyed the read, though I feel like at this moment in time I relate to it much more than I might otherwise.<p>I just graduated college this May and so the way I&#x27;m relating to the piece isn&#x27;t so much with maintaining contact with exes, but maintaining contacts with college friends. There are certainly different &#x27;levels&#x27; of friendship. Some I could see maintaining contact with frequently (but for how long??), others maybe just 3 or 4 times a year, and others still maybe just a few times every 5 years.<p>But even my closest friends - suppose I actually gave them a real phone call every month - how long does this keep going? This one comment on the OP site itself certainly hits the nail on the head...<p>&quot;are you going to be dragging all these people along with you when you are 40? 50? 80? ... You can&#x27;t take everyone with you.&quot;<p>I can see myself only speaking with my closest college friends maybe a couple times a year, 5 years from now. And that&#x27;s kind of sad.

top image is a bit NSFW even though it&#x27;s blurred, just FYI.

I wish I could send this article back in time 20 years. All the prophecies of how the internet would change the social dynamic, and now we see how it has all played out.