As one who has checked off most of that growth-list, I disagree with him.<p>You can't help giving a fuck, you can choose to do the opposite of what common sense tells you, but if you are socially inept it's just likely to screw you over.<p>When expressing something profound (i.e. not just chitchat) I almost always assess the situation first, are these my friends? does what I have to say make a difference? most importantly, am I positive what I say and how I'll say it will be respected?<p>Saying something correct, in an incorrect manner relative to the situation, will <i>not</i> get you the respect the author claims. His post is wholly for <i>him</i>, just another all-knowing Oprah.<p>I went running in the street, stripped down to only my pants, in the rain, singing it's raining men. My company loved it, my dad probably wouldn't have.