> I’m now 33, happily married with two kids<p>Then you are now part of a team, that has at least two goals: Raising Kids, and Keep Being Happily Married.<p>Reaching those goals needs teamwork. Every minute you cannot spend on your goals is a minute your teammate has to compensate for.<p>Balancing the need to succeed and family is now a team-problem, that requires a team-solution.<p>I would not try to solve this issue solo.