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How successful are you?

48 点作者 comet大约 11 年前

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song大约 11 年前
In some ways, I could say I&#x27;m successful. I have a stable source of income, a wife and I can afford to go on holidays. But, I feel that I&#x27;m an NPC. If I didn&#x27;t exist, the world would be the exact same. When I think back on my twenties, I had a lot of dreams, now all of them have been broken and I settle for less...<p>Sometimes I feel that I just need to pick myself up together and decide what to do with my life. Find some new dreams I can achieve but instead I just stay in my own mediocrity doing nothing and wondering why nothing changes...<p>I don&#x27;t think success necessarily correlates with the amount of wealth you have but it correlates with the amount of self worth you feel and how proud you are of what you did at the end of the day. It&#x27;s way too easy though to enter a vicious circle where because you failed at something you just stop really trying. Like the author, I tried, I created a business, it failed spectacularly last year due to my own incompetence at managing people and now I&#x27;m just there regretting all that I did wrong and thinking that maybe I shouldn&#x27;t even have tried.<p>I&#x27;m sorry for rambling, I&#x27;m probably writing this more for myself than for anyone else. I need to get up, stop pitying myself and find some new dreams to follow instead of just settling for mediocrity.
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musically_ut大约 11 年前
His definition of success reminds me of Bill Watterson&#x27;s advice: <a href="http://zenpencils.com/comic/128-bill-watterson-a-cartoonists-advice" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;zenpencils.com&#x2F;comic&#x2F;128-bill-watterson-a-cartoonists...</a><p>----<p>Creating a life that reflects your values and satisfies your soul is a rare achievement. In a culture that relentlessly promotes avarice and excess as the good life, a person happy doing his own work is usually considered an eccentric, if not a subversive. Ambition is only understood if it’s to rise to the top of some imaginary ladder of success. Someone who takes an undemanding job because it affords him the time to pursue other interests and activities is considered a flake. A person who abandons a career in order to stay home and raise children is considered not to be living up to his potential — as if a job title and salary are the sole measure of human worth.<p>You’ll be told in a hundred ways, some subtle and some not, to keep climbing, and never be satisfied with where you are, who you are, and what you’re doing. There are a million ways to sell yourself out, and I guarantee you’ll hear about them.<p>To invent your own life’s meaning is not easy, but it’s still allowed, and I think you’ll be happier for the trouble.<p>-- Bill Watterson (creator of Calvin &amp; Hobbes)
dctoedt大约 11 年前
Wisdom from <i>Catch 22</i> author Joseph Heller, via Kurt Vonnegut and Vanguard founder John Bogle [1]:<p>&lt;quote&gt;<p>... At a party given by a billionaire on Shelter Island, the late Kurt Vonnegut informs his pal, the author Joseph Heller, that their host, a hedge fund manager, had made more money in a single day than Heller had earned from his wildly popular novel <i>Catch 22</i> over its whole history.<p>Heller responds, “Yes, but I have something he will never have . . . <i>Enough.”</i><p>&lt;&#x2F;quote&gt;<p>(Extra paragraphing added.)<p>[1] <a href="http://www.vanguard.com/bogle_site/sp20070518.htm" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.vanguard.com&#x2F;bogle_site&#x2F;sp20070518.htm</a>
danieltillett大约 11 年前
This is a really difficult question to answer as what you consider success will change as you age. I am not a success if I consider what I thought this meant at 20, but I am now pretty happy with what I have done. I have a fantastic wife, three great boys, a business I enjoy working in that allows me to support and enjoy my family, and I am healthy. This feels like success to me right now :)
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JonFish85大约 11 年前
As others have said, it all depends on what you define &quot;success&quot; as. Clearly the OP has done things that fulfill him.<p>Although the OP makes no mention of it, when I&#x27;ve talked with friends &amp; family about &quot;success&quot; and all that, following dreams is great. One big thing to keep in mind is that the future is also uncertain. Retirement is the biggest thing that comes to mind. I have many friends who have foregone saving for retirement in order to follow their dreams, no matter how &quot;irrational&quot; that may be (I use quotes because that might not be the right term).<p>20, 30, 40 years down the road, who is going to be paying for retirement? It&#x27;s great that &quot;you&quot; have memories of doing great things! But the bills have to be paid. Is it going to be your friends, who worked those boring, monotonous jobs? Will their 401k accounts be taxed so that they have to pay for your retirement? Will mine?<p>What about kids? I have family members who did follow their dreams to do whatever it is they want to do, and then start having kids. Without a solid job, boring or not, someone has to pay for the kids. Either it&#x27;s charity from family, or it&#x27;s the government via taxes.<p>Anyways, that&#x27;s some things that I think about when these topics come up.
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smoyer大约 11 年前
I&#x27;ve got four healthy kids and a loving wife (for almost 27 years). We live comfortably and feel incredibly blessed ... what more could I ask for out of life?
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pkorzeniewski大约 11 年前
As I&#x27;m getting close to the magic age of 30, the ultimate dream and goal for me right now is running my own business - not to get rich, but to be free and independent, to feel that I have accomplished something more that working for others, to create something on my own. It may change world, it may not - doesn&#x27;t matter, it&#x27;s yours and always will be yours. Sure, it may require more work, it may be more stressful - but I choose this over being a tiny cog in another&#x27;s men machine for the next 10 or 20 years as my life is running through the hands.
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Nursie大约 11 年前
I&#x27;ve got money, a house, cars, flexibility to take whatever time off I need, international travel ... all I want in life. Except no wife or kids.<p>Not feeling very successful right now.
read大约 11 年前
Perhaps a more valuable question: how many people sit down, hopefully starting early in life, to define what success is to them? And how many people keep reevaluating that definition?<p>If being successful means getting what you want, what people seem to want is relatedness, competence and autonomy, whatever that translates to for each person.<p><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-determination_theory#Basic_needs_and_intrinsic_motivation" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;en.wikipedia.org&#x2F;wiki&#x2F;Self-determination_theory#Basic...</a>
jrs235大约 11 年前
If you&#x27;re feeling down on yourself I highly recommend a quick, short, and entertaining read called The Underachiever’s Manifesto: The Guide to Accomplishing Little and Feeling Great. <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0811853683/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0811853683&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=j02-20" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.amazon.com&#x2F;gp&#x2F;product&#x2F;0811853683&#x2F;ref=as_li_ss_tl?...</a> (Affiliate Link)<p>Edit: Affiliate free link: <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Underachievers-Manifesto-Accomplishing-Little-Feeling/dp/0811853683/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1398783061&amp;sr=1-1&amp;keywords=underachievers+manifesto" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.amazon.com&#x2F;Underachievers-Manifesto-Accomplishing...</a>
wastedhours大约 11 年前
I had the opportunity to take a high stress, really well paid job at a successful company (tech in a professional services org, not a tech co, 60% more pay). They picked someone else after previous interviews, but approached me again after the other person moved up. They had this &quot;we stay late&quot; culture and I couldn&#x27;t bring myself to take it.<p>For me, I took satisfaction from knowing I made that decision, and felt like I actually had control of my destiny somewhat.
morgante大约 11 年前
At what point are you supposed to be successful, age wise?<p>I&#x27;m 21 and my net worth is about 20 times more than most people my age (putting me in the top 0.05% of the world by income). But I definitely don&#x27;t feel successful (no real relationships in my life), but maybe that&#x27;s okay—plenty of time to figure things out in the future.
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clef大约 11 年前
Another interesting question if I may: Why does one feel the need to be successful? Or maybe one needs to simply be satisfied?
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panon大约 11 年前
If getting home by 5.30 is important, you should look into moving to Sweden, 6 hour work day ? Also free health care and blondes!
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known大约 11 年前
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k0t0n0大约 11 年前
-2&#x2F;10 :&#x2F;
tempodox大约 11 年前
What definition of success do you use?