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Ask HN: How can i help my dad?

151 点作者 eagerNewb将近 11 年前
My father has been working as a networking engineer for almost 40 years. He is exceptional at what he does. The problem is we live in a country, where things like perfection, attention to detail mean nothing. Also he is old, which is a big problem for most employers. 3 years ago he quit his job, because the owner of the company hadn't payed him for 7 months. My father didn't care for 5 months, continued doing his job, as if he was getting payed twice as much. After 7 months passed he brought the project to an end and the firm maid a substantial amount of money because of his work. He then resigned. My Dad didn't care if he wasn't getting payed, his work matters most to him and he proved it. It pains me to see him today (3 years later), still searching for jobs and going crazy, because he can't do what he loves the most. He started developing projects on his own, yet no one want to invest, because of the situation in our country(riots). This has had quite the impact on our family in all the ways you can imagine. I tried talking to him, yet he has grown distant and bitter. I'm loosing my father. He is in dire need of a job and i feel helpless.

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drinchev将近 11 年前
Disclaimer: I&#x27;m a Bulgarian.<p>My story short : I recently moved to Berlin without knowing German. I was hired 2 weeks after I started to search for a job and I had enough offers to choose the job I want ( I&#x27;ve graduated law, but programming is what I&#x27;ve been doing my whole life ). Before this I was freelancing successfully in Bulgaria for awhile and had pretty decent amount of income anyway. I moved here, because of personal wishes ( I really like the spirit here ).<p>Nowadays is really easy to change country inside EU, but anyway I don&#x27;t believe that Bulgarian economy is unstable especially for IT. You can also check out a lot of positions in Sofia and around the country that are in extreme need for specialists ( my friends still keep complaining they can&#x27;t find people, because most of them are abroad ).<p>Whatever your father is doing if he really knows English ( working level ) he will be offered with a job here or if the position allows he can even work remotely from BG.<p>If you think I can help you personally contact me.
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leandot将近 11 年前
I feel your pain is genuine and I am sorry for is happening with your father. As a Bulgarian though I feel the need to say that there are several untrue facts in your post - e.g. there are no riots in BG. Also the IT sector is very strong with HP, Micsosoft, IBM etc. having offices + emerging startup ecosystem growing rapidly and I honestly have not heard anyone in IT having issues finding a well-paid job.<p>That being said I think you can help your father in many ways:<p>Support him by telling him he is doing a great job of being a father and caring for his family and profession.<p>You can help with the CV - I recently read an article on HN about an older guy in US in a similar position and basically it turned out that his CV was just not adjusted to the new realities of the IT world.<p>Be active in communities like HN and you might get unexpected help.<p>Checkout the portfolios of startup hubs - e.g. <a href="http://launchub.com/portfolio/" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;launchub.com&#x2F;portfolio&#x2F;</a> - perfection and attention to detail do mean a lot there. Contact directly, be creative -e.g. ask if they would like to have someone helping them with networking for free one month and they can then decide if they would like to hire.<p>If you are more adventurous try a small project on indiegogo <a href="https://www.indiegogo.com/" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.indiegogo.com&#x2F;</a> - I believe enough people from HN will back it. If it is a nice idea I know I will.<p>If it is not about the work itself but looking urgently for money - try mechanical turk or something like that to make ends meet for the time being..<p>Hope it helps, I wish you luck
jgrahamc将近 11 年前
What sort of networking engineer? Could you post a short summary of his skills and experience?
ars将近 11 年前
People in this type of situation usually volunteer. Your local library, school, or place of worship are the most common.<p>It&#x27;s not as much fun as building a huge network, so you have to replace that part of the experience with the people - get to know the people there, and enjoy having them appreciate you (i.e. quality of interaction instead of quantity).
LTheobald将近 11 年前
So I&#x27;ve got to ask - what country?. Riots and a controlling government doesn&#x27;t narrow it down. Is there any chance of emigrating? How are your dad&#x27;s language skills - how&#x27;s his English for example?<p>What things has he tried? Sending out speculative letters? Taking unpaid placements (if possible) to get a foot in the door?
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smoyer将近 11 年前
What did the company he worked for provide to the client that he couldn&#x27;t&#x2F;didn&#x27;t provide directly? It sounds to me like he should start doing these projects under his own shingle.
taprun将近 11 年前
Could he start a hacklab? Find an old warehouse, put in some big tables and some equipment then invite people to come in and learn about engineering?<p>Some people got together nearby, got a government grant and setup a building to do just that. Charge a monthly fee to members and BAM! He&#x27;s a business owner doing what he loves.
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brudgers将近 11 年前
No matter how much you love your father. you can&#x27;t &#x27;fix&#x27; him.<p>You can however be supportive. In part that means putting aside what you think he should do because it&#x27;s not your call. Provide love without being asked. Provide advice only when.<p>Don&#x27;t expect him to suddenly stop acting in ways in which he takes pride. He would work without pay again if the circumstances were the same. Accept him for who he is. Doing the right things will be hard because it is about him not you.<p>Good luck.
brickcap将近 11 年前
What I am saying is not a solution to your problem but have you considered suing the organization that did not pay your dad for 7 months? It won&#x27;t help him get a job but I think it is quite unfair that the organization which profited immensely from his hard unpaid labour should be allowed to walk away. I am assuming of course that being involved in a lawsuit would not lower is his prospects of finding a job.
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blrgeek将近 11 年前
Can he do these things remotely?<p>Can you help get overseas projects?<p>Can you setup a profile on eLance&#x2F;etc where he can get projects?<p>Can you get an investment from Kiva or another crowd-funding site?
fredkelly将近 11 年前
I felt a similar predicament with my father after he was made redundant at the age of 65, having working for large US corporations (working from the UK) for most of his working life. He spent many months searching for work, at first for equal&#x2F;lower calibre roles in similar industries (he was a manager for a large telecoms company), later just looking for anything to fill his time and bring in some money. You could argue that he could&#x27;ve tried X or Y, but the truth is it seems (at least for his line of work) that job-hunting in the &quot;twilight years&quot; of your career is always going to be a struggle.<p>At first I thought this was wholly unfair. I know have come to think it&#x27;s more an unfortunate fact of life. That said, it&#x27;s not as if our ability to do go work just vanishes as we get older. For sure we aren&#x27;t as sharp; but I don&#x27;t see this as a deal breaker.<p>I&#x27;d like to think when I reach his age there will still be a meaningful role for me to fill?!
vayarajesh将近 11 年前
He can try on <a href="http://angel.co" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;angel.co</a> where mostly startups are listed and he can get what he loves may be. (there are remote jobs as well)
dansman将近 11 年前
Bulgaria is in the European Union since 2007. Your dad is eligible to work in any of the 28 Member states without any restrictions. Why did you not consider this yet?
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rwhitman将近 11 年前
The connections you&#x27;re going to get out of the comments on this HN thread will probably be a huge gift to your dad. You&#x27;re a good kid.
labaraka将近 11 年前
I don&#x27;t have any specific ideas for you but just came here to say that your dad is very lucky to have such a caring son&#x2F;daughter.
jkaljundi将近 11 年前
How about he approaches some Bulgarian accelerators, seed funds etc and offers to first help them, even if pro bono to begin with. Mentor startup teams on technology and other issues. Build a network. You build great contacts and definitely something will show up if he is good. Not starting from &quot;I need a job&quot; or &quot;I need an investment&quot; but just getting involved in the scene? A network engineer is usually a good all-around tech guy and as such can be very valuable to young people. Also participate at events there and help out.<p>Quite often in that situation being part of a community and being useful can do wonders to your mentality and self-assurance. But networking is just as important.<p>Why not go visit <a href="http://11.me/" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;11.me&#x2F;</a> and <a href="http://launchub.com/" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;launchub.com&#x2F;</a> and <a href="http://www.betahaus.bg/" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.betahaus.bg&#x2F;</a> and others?
blablabla123将近 11 年前
Do you have an E-Mail address or some stuff? I know a Network company that has a lot of people working remote.
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stevehawk将近 11 年前
Get him a book on Amazon Web Services... pay for him to get an architecture certificate... and try to get him consulting work.
ForHackernews将近 11 年前
Would it be possible for him to get a remote-work job? That would get around some of the problems specific to your country, and it might also help somewhat with the ageism issue.
algorix将近 11 年前
In times of crisis sometimes is good we try new areas, maybe your father finds happiness working with something else.<p>A small business, something that he can be independent, owner.
Rigjig将近 11 年前
I&#x27;ve been in the same position, as you with my dad. The best thing to do is network. Put his resume on indeed.com, dice.com, working with rails (or something of that sort). There are a few cofounder sites as well (techcofounder.com is one). Rest is all chance, people with the stupidest startups are making quite a bit of money.
hiphopyo将近 11 年前
You could always team up with your dad and create the coolest app your country has ever seen.
jfoster将近 11 年前
How about taking some jobs from freelancing websites? (eg. ODesk or Freelancer)<p>I&#x27;ve heard that these can sometimes lead to ongoing arrangements.
slvn将近 11 年前
I imagine that him doing computer networking work has been a refuge from the bad kind of social networking the country imposes...
jasoncartwright将近 11 年前
&gt; we live in a country, where things like perfection, attention to detail mean nothing<p>Is this actually true? Seems like a kneejerk generalisation. If it is true, then surely this is a huge opportunity.
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otec将近 11 年前
I don&#x27;t think your father need any help. You will just waste your time trying and there won&#x27;t be any benefit for him.<p>He is an adult. I assume, because he is a IT professional he has a good education.<p>I bet he knows that there are countries where he can get a better pay job. But for his own reasons, he has decided not to pursue this endeavor. I bet he made a choice of staying where he is now consciously. Maybe it&#x27;s not his cup of tea moving between countries.<p>Of course no harm talking to him and reiterating the above. But I bet he knows and made up his mind already.
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