Seeing the discussion here, I'll recommend to the Hacker News readers who haven't heard about it yet the new book <i>Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want</i>,[1] which reviews research on topics like this and a lot of other mysteries of the human mind. It's a book based on current experimental research in psychology, but it has had some good editing to be a readable, interesting popular book that will reliably prompt you to think about aspects of your thinking you perhaps have not thought about recently. (I'm reading the book right now, which is why this comes to mind.) I think reading <i>Mindwise</i> just might help you understand yourself better, understand your significant other better, understand your co-workers better, and understand the group dynamics on Hacker News better, and anyway it's fun to read.<p>[1] <a href="http://faculty.chicagobooth.edu/nicholas.epley/html/Mindwise.html" rel="nofollow">http://faculty.chicagobooth.edu/nicholas.epley/html/Mindwise...</a>