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Father and Daughter Reunion

73 点作者 aaronjg超过 10 年前

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rayiner超过 10 年前
I appreciate the sentiment of the article, but I hate that our culture plays up this idea that being a good parent means being there for all the arbitrary &quot;milestones.&quot; I honestly don&#x27;t remember if my dad was there or not on my first day of school, etc. I sure as hell remember that he called me when I got home from school every day to make sure I was okay and not getting into trouble.<p>You&#x27;re not going to be able to convince corporate America that a kid&#x27;s dance recital is more important than a client meeting. All you&#x27;ll do by stressing that dance recital is make busy parents feel bad for not being able to live up to some ideal, or discourage ambitious people from having kids because they think they can&#x27;t be good parents too. You&#x27;ll get a lot further trying to push back on ideas like &quot;face time&quot; or competing on who can take the least vacation. Don&#x27;t have much work? Go home at 2 and take your kid to a museum. That&#x27;s just as valuable as your being there for an arbitrary &quot;milestone.&quot;
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chollida1超过 10 年前
For those that don&#x27;t follow the bond markets, his former company, Pimco, would be the Google or Microsoft of bond traders.<p>Tangentially, Bill Gross, the other pillar of Pimco just announced today that he was leaving as well.<p>Pimco&#x27;s funds are reportedly being hammered with withdraws. Estimates are that they could loose up to 30% of their managed assets, and with almost 2 trillion managed that&#x27;s market moving news!!<p>See: <a href="http://www.theglobeandmail.com/report-on-business/pimco-withdrawals-could-hit-30-per-cent-as-money-managers-stunned-by-departure/article20805645/" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.theglobeandmail.com&#x2F;report-on-business&#x2F;pimco-with...</a><p>So if you think you are having a bad day......<p>Imagine you are at Google and in the span of a few months both Larry and then Sergey unexpectedly announce they are leaving.<p>&gt; Mr El-Erian used to leave home for work at 4.30am each morning<p>I always wondered why someone who trades in the markets would live out West where you need to be ready at 6:30 for the market open.<p>I&#x27;m guessing someone has a smart ass comment lined up about how being around for your kids should be the default, or how if they made 100 million in a year that they&#x27;d quit too, but I think articles like this are good, in that it reminds hard charging people to stop and look around once in a while.
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lsc超过 10 年前
Yeah... my assumption when an executive says they are leaving to &quot;spend more time with my family&quot; is still that they were asked to leave and are trying to be graceful about it.<p>(I mean, I know nothing about bond markets. It could very well be sincere in this case. I&#x27;m just saying, my immediate impression, when a top person says they are leaving to spend more time with their family, is to extend my sympathy at, you know, getting canned)<p>Maybe it is just my experience at Yahoo in the mid aughts. It seemed like every three months, a top exec was &quot;leaving to spend more time with my family&quot;<p>I mean, being graceful about getting pushed out is a good thing for all involved, and it seems like the leaving letters are getting more convincing lately, which is fine, but... yeah, I&#x27;m still not buying it.
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mfringel超过 10 年前
It&#x27;s definitely one of the better crafted &quot;spend more time with the family&quot; announcements.<p>Barring other evidence, there&#x27;s no particular reason to believe this is different than any other executive who is being encouraged to resign from their organization.
dang超过 10 年前
Url changed from <a href="http://www.9news.com.au/world/2014/09/25/06/42/high-flying-ceo-quits-after-daughter-sends-him-22-things-he-missed" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.9news.com.au&#x2F;world&#x2F;2014&#x2F;09&#x2F;25&#x2F;06&#x2F;42&#x2F;high-flying-c...</a>.
onaclov2000超过 10 年前
I&#x27;ll be honest, I&#x27;m not even in a demanding job and but my wife and I are both full time employed and I have been struggling with this (our little ones are not even school age yet). Personally handing my child over to another for raising is and has been difficult, I&#x27;m not sure whether it&#x27;s something I&#x27;ll continue to do, or if it&#x27;s something I&#x27;ll regret when I&#x27;m older. Time will tell.
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libria超过 10 年前
&gt; hopefully, as companies give more attention to the importance of work-life balance, more and more people will be in a better position to decide and act more holistically on what’s important to them.<p>I see no signs of the US economy rewarding life-balanced underproducers, or of companies altruistically shouldering this moral burden. Spare time is not a right, quality time is a luxury. Every individual chooses how much time they are willing to trade for success&#x2F;compensation. It will be difficult to convince companies and consumers that this is their problem.
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param超过 10 年前
My parents didn&#x27;t attend a majority of events for me, for example, I told my mom in 12th grade (in India) - you are going to miss never ever having attended a PTA meeting for me, and the last one is coming up, so you better go. Then she went. I remember coming 70th in a Geography olympiad in my city (New Delhi, current population 27M), and me going alone to receive the award. All the way to my Convocation, Masters from IITD, which (bloody hell) even I didn&#x27;t attend - I was too busy working to fly back out - (this one I sometimes feel bad about). Net net, my parents never attended shit BUT most importantly I don&#x27;t feel bad about it; ever.<p>On the other hand, my wife&#x27;s dad is a busy industrialist, even he never attended anything. Her mom did though. Her view of it is completely different. She feels very very bad about her dad not being there, to the point that she forces me to attend all of our kids school events, even when I think some are not that important.<p>I guess it depends on your personality and how you respond to things around you.
frenchman_in_ny超过 10 年前
Walking away from it all seems fairly easy when you&#x27;re making $100m+ per year and you don&#x27;t have to worry about making ends meet.<p>That work-life balance is sometimes a bit more of a razor&#x27;s edge (depending on industry) -- tilt a bit too much towards the &quot;life&quot; side and you may suddenly find yourself with a bunch of unexpected free time to spend with family.
jmathai超过 10 年前
The comments on this are pretty depressing. I&#x27;m hoping they&#x27;re from folks without kids. This has very little to do with efficiency and optimization.<p>This is probably an unpopular perspective but here goes anyways.<p>If you&#x27;ve got kids and you&#x27;re trying to figure out what they&#x27;ll remember and not remember in order to maximize some theoretical value -- I urge you to take a step back and look at what really matters. It&#x27;s too easy to get caught up in life. Especially in the US. And even more in Silicon Valley.<p>You won&#x27;t ever look back and wish you spent less time with your kids. Doesn&#x27;t always matter if they remember it or not.
EddyTaylor超过 10 年前
Hi Everyone,<p>I truly appreciate and agree with this article. If we are not giving time to our loved ones and only lost in this corporate world, what is the sense of making money? For whom we are working night and day? It would be selfishness if our priority is only our work. For me, family is the most important thing than comes your work. Read this short story and I think it will affect you guys too.<p>One day, an expert in time management was speaking to a group of business students and, to drive home a point, used an illustration those students will never forget. As he stood in front of the group of high-powered over-achievers he said, &quot;Okay, time for a quiz&quot; and he pulled out a one-gallon, wide-mouth mason jar and set it on the table in front of him. He also produced about a dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one at a time, into the jar. When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he asked, &quot;Is this jar full?&quot; Everyone in the class yelled, &quot;Yes.&quot; The time management expert replied, &quot;Really?&quot; He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel. He dumped some gravel in and shook the jar causing pieces of gravel to work themselves down into the spaces between the big rocks. He then asked the group once more, &quot;Is the jar full?&quot; By this time the class was on to him. &quot;Probably not,&quot; one of them answered. &quot;Good!&quot; he replied. He reached under the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in the jar and it went into all of the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel. Once more he asked the question, &quot;Is this jar full?&quot; &quot;No!&quot; the class shouted. Once again he said, &quot;Good.&quot; Then he grabbed a pitcher of water and began to pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim. Then he looked at the class and asked, &quot;What is the point of this illustration?&quot; One eager beaver raised his hand and said, &quot;The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try really hard you can always fit some more things in it!&quot; &quot;No,&quot; the speaker replied, &quot;that&#x27;s not the point. The truth this illustration teaches us is, &quot;If you don&#x27;t put the big rocks in first, you&#x27;ll never get them in at all. What are the &#x27;big rocks&#x27; in your life, time with loved ones, your faith, your education, your dreams, a worthy cause, teaching or mentoring others? Remember to put these BIG ROCKS in first or you&#x27;ll never get them in at all. So, tonight, or in the morning, when you are reflecting on this short story, ask yourself this question, &quot;What are the &#x27;big rocks&#x27; in my life?&quot; Then, put those in your jar first. If this inspired you, share with others so they can benefit!
MattWard超过 10 年前
thats awesome....so much better for it
lotsofmangos超过 10 年前
Reminds me a lot of Calvin&#x27;s &#x27;Dad Polls&#x27; - <a href="http://calvinethobbes.free.fr/images/polls2.gif" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;calvinethobbes.free.fr&#x2F;images&#x2F;polls2.gif</a><p>Is also an instructive example of why it is so hard to predict the markets. Sometimes the markets are dependent on pissed-off ten year olds.
jpeg_hero超过 10 年前
I condemn this!<p>Opprobrium on you Mr. El-Erian.<p>You were one of the truly talented people in this world, and your efforts helped bolster this shared undertaking called civilization.<p>And now, in an act of selfish indulgence, you&#x27;ve decided to turn your back on your rare talents, and instead provide very simple child rearing (&quot;I now alternate with my wife in waking up our daughter every morning, preparing her breakfast and driving her to school.&quot;) to a single one of the 73.98 million children in the US (<a href="http://www.wolframalpha.com/input/?i=united+states+population+under+age+18" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.wolframalpha.com&#x2F;input&#x2F;?i=united+states+populatio...</a>)<p>This is not my values, and we should not venerate this man for his selfish choices.